Top Hack To Stop Worrying About What People Think Of You

Key Takeaways

• Worry about what people think is like a lasting fog on your happiness path.
• Don’t worry about what people think of you, worry about what you think of you.
• Here is how you can increase your focus on yourself so you can stop worrying about what others think of you and start being free. Complete the following phrases: “Success is …”, “My top values are …”, “The purpose of what I do is …”, “My top goal this year is …”, “I am grateful for …”, and “I like … and I don’t like …”

6 Questions to Ask Yourself

When was the last time you didn’t do something you wanted or did something you didn’t want to do because you feared others would judge you?

• Scared of reaching out to your network because they may think you are opportunistic?
• Scared of asking for a raise or for work flexibility because they may think you are entitled?
• Scared of sharing your real opinion in the meeting because they may find you stupid?
• Scared of saying no to their request because they will find you selfish?
• How much of what you did today was 100% your choice?

Worry about what people think is like a lasting fog on your happiness path.

What’s worse is that sometimes those people are complete strangers, people that you don’t care about, or admire. And yet, you still allow them to determine your actions. This is addiction to approval and validation from others.

Being too worried about what people think of you means you aren’t clear enough about what you think of yourself. Is thinking about yourself, your goals, and your life selfish? No, it’s productive!

Don’t worry about what people think of you, worry about what you think of you.

The more you focus on yourself, the less you’ll focus on others and what they think. Start by improving your self-awareness. That way, you won’t feel the need to change at the whim of other preferences and judgments. Then, focus on your future.

Here is how you can increase your focus on yourself so you can stop worrying about what others think of you and start being free. Complete the following phrases:

1. “Success is …”

Everyone has a different definition of success, and there is no right or wrong. People may judge you and your actions based on their own definition of success, not yours.

2. “My top values are …”

Get clear on your intrinsic values, what you stand for, and write them down. That way, you’ll know what is important to you.

3. “The purpose of what I do is …”

When you have a purpose, a clearly articulated why, a legacy statement, clarity on the impact you want to create in the world, then you are more willing to take on criticism, challenges, and judgement from others.

4. “My top goal this year is …”

There is no better way to stop thinking about what others think than to get busy with exciting projects. Get clear on your plan for growth, development, and milestones.

5. “I am grateful for …”

Gratefulness and worry cannot coexist in your mind at the same time. Gratefulness elevates your mindset vibrations. Worry brings it down. Choose gratefulness.

6. “I like … and I don’t like …”

Find what you like and dislike to do, learn, and talk about. Know who you like and dislike to spend time with. Know what activities and tasks you enjoy.

Ivna Curi is the founder of www.AssertiveWay.com, with the mission to empower ambitious professionals to be confident and to thrive in difficult conversations. We do that by helping them learn, test, and practice hard conversations and assertiveness in a safe environment. Find out more at www.AssertiveWay.com .